Report Card
Notes from my crash course in adulting
I recently migrated into adulthood. Honestly, nothing prepared me for this. Today, while chatting with a friend, it was hilarious (and comforting) to realize how much we both relate to the same struggles and unfamiliar terrain. Here’s my current “report card”:
1. I got a job
Huge news — I landed my first big girl job, and I couldn’t be happier or more excited. But wow, it’s teaching me lessons in consistency. Showing up EVERY SINGLE DAY, staying on top of tasks, and delivering correctly and on time is no joke. For me, this job isn’t just an opportunity; it’s survival — I need to fend for myself. And as someone who has mastered the art of not showing up, this is a complete life shift.
2. I moved out of my parents’ house
This has been my dream since secondary school. Yes, I’d already been away during uni, but moving out officially hits different. It’s weird, new, and honestly humbling. I’ve learned that I need to be taken care of because if left entirely to myself, I’d probably be discovered years later as a skeleton on a pile of trash. Adulting is housekeeping, cooking, cleaning, and surviving — all rolled into one. And I suck at ALLLL of them.
3. I spend my own money
I’ve always wanted to be that independent woman. But what I didn’t sign up for were the endless debit alerts that come with it. Managing money is a full-blown sport. Strategizing, budgeting, planning, being wise — it’s a constant cycle (almost like periods). Poverty is literally one wrong decision away, and that scary reality keeps me on my toes.
4. I hate everybody
I’m not antisocial, and I’ve never been a loner. Thanks to my parents — and some faults of my own — I know a million people. But adulthood has introduced me to the beauty of aloneness. Not loneliness — just enjoying my space, my silence, my world. These days, talking to people feels like a chore, and honestly, I’m not mad about it.
5. My life is in my hands
This one’s the scariest. How do you suddenly become responsible for yourself when no one truly taught you how? It feels like being shielded as a toddler, then abruptly shoved into the driver’s seat of a car. It’s messy, overwhelming, but also exhilarating. And somehow, you’re expected to start driving on the highway.
6. My parents are actually chill
It’s funny watching them loosen up just as life is tightening its grip on me.
Right now, my life feels like a whirlwind of emotions, with blurry days and nights running into each other. I wake up every morning watching my life evolve before my eyes. It’s scary.
Sometimes, I wish I could revisit the freedom of childhood for just a minute. But I wouldn’t trade this phase either; it’s teaching me more than I ever expected.
So, If you’re a teenager or just minutes away from adulthood, my advice is simple: make the most of the season you’re in. You’ll be shocked to find out that adulthood is way more than sex and partying.
Anyway, I have work to get back to. See y’all in another mail